These days, there are so many interpretations of love. There are so many ways to express love. There are so many different definitions and descriptions of what love is, what is feels like and how to love.

I disagree with most of them, of course.

For starters, I don't believe in falling in love. I don't believe in falling out of love. I also do not believe in love at first sight.

When it comes to matters of the heart, I am probably about one the most unromantic and cynical people you'll ever meet. (:

But that doesn't mean I don't believe in love. I do believe that there is such a thing as love. I believe it exists very much so in this world. I also believe that there are people out there who truly love other people.

My idea of love is probably considered rather conventional and almost wharped, compared to 21st century standards and modern theories and beliefs.

I agree that love is unconditional. I agree that it can grow as time goes on. However, I also believe that love is a choice. Love does not come naturally.

All that stuff I said before about falling in love, falling out of love and love at first sight is not really love, in my opinion.. but more of romance and possibly lust/attraction. You cannot love a person you meet the first time because you do not know them for who they are by what they look like or appear to be like. You cannot love a person one day and decide not to love that same person another day.

You can, however, choose to love a person unconditionally. Even if the person does not love you back. Even if the person has done many many things or said many many things that hurt you like crazy. You can still love that person because you want to.
You can, also, grow to love a person. As time goes on, as you build a relationship with that very person, you can slowly and steadily grow to love him/her more and more each day.

It's innate in us to be able to love, yes. But love doesn't come naturally. Not in my opinion, anyway. Because if that was the case, then it would be an absolute paradox. We choose to love.

You can love a person you do not like.
You can love a person you like very much.

It's sort of like living life, in a sense, you choose to open your eyes every morning when you know it's time to wake up. You choose to be alive and you choose to live. It's the same principle with love, I reckon. You choose to love. Even if it may suck at times, you do it anyway because you want to.

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I don't know why, but before I started kissing.. it was like a huge deal to me. There's all that crazy talk about first kisses and how precious and special they are. Well, to a certain extent, I do still believe that first kisses are somewhat important. Not because kissing is such a big deal but because it is, after all, your first time. Anything that you do for the first time is important since it sort of represents a benchmark. If your first kiss is good, your expectations of following kisses will be higher. If your first kiss is bad, it may very well put you off kissing totally. Right?

But after so many kisses, I somewhat wonder if there really is any significance in kissing. Why do we do it anyway? Why hasn't the novelty wore off? Why do we like it so much?

It is, after all, just a simple kiss.

A mere exchange of yummy saliva and a generous donation of one's germs to another.

I hope I'm not killing it for anyone, eh? (:

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